Nursing is a primarily female dominated profession. There are probably a few others, but I wouldn’t know much about them, except strippers. I dated a few fabric free shoe models, back before I got married. And I probably spent a few hundred bucks or more hanging out in stripper bars, back when I drank.
I have an immense amount of respect for strippers. And nurses. For completely different reasons. Though, there are a few nurses I worked with that I wouldn’t have minded seeing as strippers. And then I would have doubly respected them.
Nurses are a breed apart. Not just anyone can handle being a nurse. It’s a tough job, and even the strongest nurses will have days when all they can do is go home and cry.
As a result, you make strong attachments to anyone that will help you get through your shift in one piece. You develop a level of trust with those people that transcends almost any other relationship you’ll have.
And as a result of that trust, you will sometimes hear the strangest things as a nurse, from other nurses.
“Ooh! I like your shirt! The bra and panties I’m wearing today are the same color!”
“My pee smells like coffee.”
“I’m having an affair.”
“My vagina is hemorrhaging blood!”
“My daughter’s boyfriend beat me up and broke my arm.”
“I just found out my husband has been having sex with our daughter.”
“I have cancer…”
Or, my personal favorite, “I have multiple orgasms.”
I mean, how are you supposed to respond to that? Well, this is how I did: “Um, yeah, me too.”
It wasn’t always pretty, or funny. As a guy, I wasn’t completely comfortable hearing about all the bodily functions of my female co-workers, or what they were doing with their bodies.
“Mark! I was sooo sick last night! I was puking my guts out, and I had diarrhea, at the same time!”
Yeah, it was like that. Especially when Shark Week rolled around. Shark Week was nursing code for when someone was hemorrhaging blood out of their vagina. But many of my female co-workers seemingly couldn’t contain their excitement when they had news to tell me.
I asked one of my vaginally hemorrhaging co-workers why she seemed to take so much delight in telling me about the most personal details of her life.
“I’m a guy. I don’t want to hear about that stuff.”
“Oh. I kind of think of you as one of the girls.”
Yeah, every guy wants to hear those words. But I should note that one of the ward clerks I worked with once described me as ladylike.
I needed a deeper explanation of that, and this is what she said: You’re very polite, and considerate. You have very good manners.
I had a response for her: Yeah, there’s another term for that. It’s called being a gentleman.
I was seemingly the safe sounding board for my female co-workers to tell their problems to. Especially when it came to their relationships. Bad boyfriends. Abusive husbands. Problem children. Problem dogs. I heard about them all. In detail.
Most of my colleagues weren’t seeking advice or counsel. They just wanted someone to talk to, someone to listen. But there are always exceptions.
One of my fellow nurses, Ann, would corner me in the Med Room and tell me all about her toxic relationship with her boyfriend, and then she’d ask me what she should do.
“I’m not giving you anymore advice.”
“Why not? You’re a smart guy.”
“Yes. And you’re a smart girl. You already know what to do.”
“But, your opinion means a lot to me. You’re like the big brother I never had.”
“Look, you’ve asked me for my opinion before, right?”
“And have you done anything I’ve suggested?”
“Okay. There you go. Keep doing what you’re doing.”
And then we would go through the same thing the following day. By the way, my advice to Ann was to dump her loser boyfriend. I don’t know what she ended up doing. She resigned her position, and was replaced by the nurse who had multiple orgasms.
As much as I disliked Ann, I fucking hated her replacement, that little troll.
Nurses, as wonderful and brilliant as they are, tend to make terrible decisions regarding their personal lives. I don’t know why that is. Even the nurses that make the terrible decisions probably couldn’t tell you why they make the ridiculous choices they make. But the answer might be something as simple as desperation.
“I want to meet a nice guy, and get married. I want babies, I want a family! I want a normal life!”
Yes. A normal life. Because the life of a nurse is anything but normal. Nurses work long hours, and then pick up an extra shift. A quiet day at work? What is that? If you could really work your ass off, it’d be easy to pick a nurse out of a crowd.
Nurses answer endless questions, answer call lights, dress wounds, check blood sugars, administer meds, respond to codes, save lives, and shed a tear when a life ends.
Nurses are tough, and smart, and dedicated. You have to love your job to be a nurse, or the job will eat you alive. And that’s why nurses want nothing more than a normal personal life. You can take only so much insanity in one day.
I don’t miss the crazy nurse life. I did that for thirty years. I’m quite content to read about the wild stuff that happened on social media. And I really don’t miss Shark Week.
I do miss the people. I genuinely loved and respected most of the people I worked with at Aurora, my last employer. They were probably the best group of people I worked with in my career, and I’ve worked with some of the best.
There’s been a management change at Aurora, and while I respected the former DON there, I absolutely love the new DON. I wish all of the people at Aurora a blessed and successful 2017.
I’ll try to keep up with you on Facebook. When you come visit, we’ll have a Girls Night Out.